HOW TO SURVIVE A NASTY BREAKUP

The sad reality is that life isn’t like the movies. There is often no real fairytale outcomes, divorce statistics are growing and more and more couples are growing apart, we are simply not as close or loyal as we once were and the ability to meet new partners has also grown with the invention of mobile phones, the internet, facebook and dating sites over the last few decades.

What commonly occurs during nasty breakups is that both individuals lay blame and fault on each other, reluctant to take any responsibility for the break down. It’s very rarely the case that one partner is a completely innocent victim and the other is entirely at fault. Both partners contribute to the gradual downward spiralling dynamic of a failing relationship. It takes two people to start a relationship and two people to end it. 

The other thing about nasty breakups is that its not like an addiction, mental health issue of having cancer. What I mean by that is that the level of sympathy associated with a break up is especially low, for more longer term relationships there is usually a bit more but with newer relationships our friends and families tend to brush it off and say things like 'oh you'll be fine, he wasn't good enough anyway' or 'theres plenty of fish in the sea'. These kinds of comments are not helpful.

The thing is that the breakdown of any relationship can be extremely traumatic for all involved especially in the case where there are children involved or in the case of divorce. Severe trauma can lead to depression, mental health issues, anxiety and even lead to suicide.

World Famous Life, Addiction, Business & Relationship coach Shane Cuthbert addresses the issues facing those dealing with breakups and provides solutions and insights into how to better deal with and cope during these traumatic experiences.